How to accept myself for who I am?

"We are all different. The questions of who we really are, and how to truly accept ourselves, perplexes many of us".

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My Journey of Struggle

You may have heard my life story; When I was young, I used to like watching movies, and I decided I wanted to have the sort of exciting, adventurous and rewarding life that I saw people in the movies having. I quickly realised that this life wasn’t going to be laid on for me, so I set about becoming the author of my own life story, and director of my own life movie. The result was that I gained a huge amount of experiences, both good and bad. I experienced some massive highs and lows, had plenty of real life adventures, made and lost millions, found myself in many life-threatening situations, including being shipwrecked in mid-Atlantic, and at one time reached rock bottom. A massive curiosity, led me on a journey of discovery; I wanted to understand the meaning and purpose of life, and how we can all make the most of our lives and our time on earth. That journey led me to an epiphany that transformed my life. I had a strong feeling that everything I had ever discovered, done, experienced and achieved, was part of a lifetime apprenticeship, to prepare me to help others on their life journey. My ego gave way to humility, as I discovered my destiny to become a servant for humanity, helping others.

How do I accept myself for who I am? One of Googles' Most Searched Questions

Big Problem Affecting Lots of People and The Search For a Solution

Google announced in 2016 that amongst the most searched questions was: “how do I accept myself for who I am?” When I saw that question, I felt an inner surge of energy, because it had been a recurring question in my own life and one that I desperately wanted to answer myself, but I feel it is a question that goes hand in hand with another equally significant question: “who am I really?” It is remarkably easy to get confused about who you are, because our heads will tell us stories, rationalise who we are, and our hearts may tug us in a completely different direction. Others may also project onto us, who they think we are and who they think we should be. It is so easy to get lost in confusion. The whole question of our identity, goes to the heart of who we really are and the meaning and purpose of our lives. I’ve got an enlightened friend who helps people in their lives and his favourite question is “who are you?” The truth is that our identity is made up of many different parts, that in my book: “Feel Good Change The World”, I describe the four key parts of us:

1.       Our Heads – the thinking, logical, rational part of us.

2.       Our Hearts – the feeling, emotional and intuitive parts of us.

3.       The Physical Us – our bodies.

4.       Our Souls – this is something that is typically ill defined, some doubt we even have one, but I suggest it is the part of us that is connected to the universe, it is the deepest feelings and knowing that is more than acquired knowledge.

We get to acquire so many different labels in life, from things like: gender, sexual orientation, nationality, skin colour, ethnic background, religion, qualifications, jobs and professional, wealth, social status, membership of groups etc. The late author Dr Wayne Dyer talked about the big ego beliefs:

1.            I am what I have. My possessions define me.

2.            I am what I do. My achievements define me.

3.            I am what others think of me. My reputation defines me.

4.            I am separate from everyone. My body defines me as alone.

5.       I am separate from all that is missing in my life. My life space is disconnected from my desires.

He argued, and I am inclined to agree with him that at the deepest level, none of these things are true.

I have literally spent decades discovering how to best work out who you really are, because having clarity and certainty in this helps you to accept yourself for who you truly are, imperfections and all.

When you ask the short and simple question: “How do I accept myself for who I am?” you want a short simple answer: do this or do that and then you can accept yourself for who you are. I’d love to give you half a dozen bullet points that would absolutely, totally enable you to accept yourself for who you are, but I feel it is not that simple. Sure, I could give you tips that might help, but I feel the question is part of something much deeper. Why do you want to discover how to accept yourself for who you are? I think the answer lies in happiness and fulfilment, and the avoidance of pain and suffering, which is what the Dalai Lama says is the purpose of all our lives.

My book “Feel Good Change The World” really addresses the core question of how to make the most of your life, I’ve tried to simplify something that which is complex, but I believe that fulfilment which is a deep lasting happiness, can only come when you accept you who really are and you live your life as you really are. We are called “Human Beings” for a reason, all we need to do, is be who we really are in all our glory. I believe we are all unique and there is a place for all of us in the world, our diversity is our strength as a human race, yet all too often we feel that others want us to be who we are not.

There is an interesting thing that in the Bible / Torah Moses is having a conversation with God: “ 'The God of your fathers has sent me to you.' Now they may say to me, 'What is His name?' What shall I say to them?" God said to Moses, "I AM WHO I AM". In the book The Moses Code the suggestion is that the name of god is “I Am”, with the inference that god is us, all of us.

I am not advocating religion, or even a belief in God, everyone has their own opinion on that, but what I suggest is that the question of who we truly are, is deep in our psyche and DNA, it is massively important to all of us.

I feel that if you find yourself asking how you can accept yourself for who you really are, it is the universe nudging you to question the deeper aspects of life by embarking on an inner journey of discovery. Once you really lift the lid on this question, it is like a Pandora’s box, you’ll discover a depth beyond your imagination, but also a universal truth that the best thing that all of us can do is to be who we really are at the deepest level, even if that feels deeply uncomfortable from the position you are in now.

"Jonathan Blain's Feel Good Change The World Book Can Help You To Accept Who You Really Are"

As a first step, I think you’ll find reading my book “Feel Good Change The World” a great way of gaining consciousness and understanding, to discover a new enlightenment, and a means of solving problems, issues and challenges you may have in your life and taking the way you live your live to a higher level, where you can be happier, more fulfilled, make a bigger difference, achieve the career success you want and meet your financial needs and desires.